At the moment I am taking two online courses. One is called The Feminine Art of Manifesting with Rose Cole and Gina DeVee (which is not exclusively for women) and the other is The Abundant Creative with Melissa D’Antoni.
Both of them had recommended reading The Game of Life and How To Play it by the way. Anyway, Melissa D’Antoni recently posted a life-affirming quote from a man called Abraham.
You cannot struggle to joy. Struggle and joy are not on the same channel. You joy your way to joy. You laugh your way to success. It is through your joy that good things come.
This reminds me of how I got my job here. I didn’t want a full-time job because I was going to study German and M had a job already and we had money in the bank so I wasn’t worried about finances. Then bam! I had a job and went against my intuition to take it. But things came so easily – unlike in the past when I was anxious about starting life abroad and finding a job was difficult.
Can you relate to this? When you are relaxed things seem to fall into your lap? Like when you just get into a relationship or when you are not interested, you become super attractive to others like you never were before. You are so content and cool and not giving off that subliminal whiff of desperation. ‘I want what she’s having,’ they think. This is the opposite of having the down and out mind-set and no one giving you a break.
Florence Scovel Shinn teaches that “nothing stands between man and his highest ideals and every desire of his heart, but doubt and fear.” When we can “wish without worrying” all our desires will be fulfilled.
If we are doubting and fearing then we will receive doubt and fear. If we are telling people we are broke or even saying it to ourselves or making jokes about it, then we will remain so. Remember that the subconscious mind is all brawn and no brains. It simply does what it’s told and like a bouncer on the door of a nightclub in Perth, it has no sense of humour.
So the question is – how can we get in the millionaire mind-set when we only have pennies to play with? How can we change our beliefs and manifest our heart’s desires?
My wise friend Florence says,
We must substitute fear for faith. For fear is only inverted faith. It is faith in evil instead of good.
Love this lady.
We must have faith in abundance. We must trust that we will be provided for if we reach out to help ourselves. We must have faith that there is enough for all of us. Perhaps the world as we see it tells us something different but this is exactly the kind of fear-based belief we must choose to change.
And how can we change our perception to have faith in abundance? Firstly, we have to flood our consciousness with our new way of thinking in order to drown out the way we have been programmed or raised to think and what is being advertised all around us. This means really filling up on the books, videos, talks, blogs, podcasts and courses that support, strengthen and enrich our new consciousness. It also means intentionally being around people who inspire and lift you up. For me this also means following my gurus and thought leaders on Facebook. Their posts lift me up throughout the day. We can choose not to listen to others. This is a choice we can all make.
Doing this work is an ongoing process but it’s fun. It’s not that I am trying to be balloon-popping happy. I seek to feel all emotions more deeply and be more myself. I am choosing to be calm, loving, present, creative, intuitive, generous and free. And as I said, the process is ongoing.
Another way to believe in what’s possible is to act ‘as if’.
You can act as if the thing has already happened. Like in sports psychology, you can physically act as if you have already achieved. This is how Tony Robbins trained Andre Agassi before he won Wimbledon (so I’ve heard from Gina DeVee). He got him to act as if he had just won – and then got him to repeat it a hundred times.
If that feels a bit of a push, acting as if can also mean being the person you want to be in the future right now. Act as if you are the person who’s lost ten kilos already. How does this affect the decisions you make? Act as if you are already the person who would receive the thing you desire. For example, if you want to manifest something like a business or person in your life, after you get clear on what qualities the manifestation will have, get clear on what person you need to be to have what you desire. And then take steps towards becoming it.
Acting as if also involves feeling good now. If you think about something you desire, really what you are yearning for is the feeling that goes with it. So identify what the feeling is that you want to feel in getting your heart’s desire and then find a way to feel it.
For me, I want to be a successful published author (have I mentioned this?). Being a published author will allow me to keep writing and get paid and through this I feel free, creative, present and grounded, expansive, tapped in and hooked up to the creative source, with eyes wide-open to see, really see. It also helps me see meaning and to understand and be understood. Plus it’s really fun. Writing this blog gives me these exact things. I get to write and some people even read it and some comment too. I so appreciate you for this. It makes me feel ‘as if’.
The activity that gives you the feelings you desire doesn’t have to be directly linked or logical though– remember to go with your intuition. For example, I went through a stage around age twenty when I used to ride my bike everywhere, acting as if I lived in Europe, feeling as if I was there. I really enjoyed myself.
And that’s the point – doing this other activity also helps you to let go of the outcome. You enjoy yourself, you relax, and there isn’t anxiety or worry. You joy yourself to joy.
The thing you desire may turn up in another form, so be open.
What I’m telling you here is just the tip of the iceberg.
Now, getting back to looking for a job – why would I be actively looking for a job as a teacher when I really want to get my pay-checks from writing? Of course I know it is for the financial security, but I suspect this fall-back option is keeping me stuck. Recently I read a post of Mastin Kipp’s from The Daily Love about only having a Plan A. If we have Plan B, then we do not fully believe that Plan A will work out. We must put all our efforts into Plan A without exception.
Of course Florence agrees. She so eloquently says,
Man must prepare for the thing he has asked for, when there isn’t the slightest sign of it in sight.
Wow! This is huge!
So I’m not looking for a job. When I think about June 28th I feel a sense of total freedom. I am driving a Cadillac through the open plains of Arizona with the wind in my hair. Why would I give that up? I am disentangling myself from the vines that have held me back and stepping into new shoes. I’m acting as if something incredible is about to happen.
Okay I wasn’t last week, but I am from today.
Last week I was kind of doing it in theory. Today I am embodying the teachings with born- again vigour.
Last week I was saying things like, “Well, I hope you get to read Wonderlust…one day” chuckle chuckle, act bashful and painfully modest, change the topic.
Today I am saying, “Of course you can read it. Expect a signed copy in your Christmas stocking!”
Why could I not say this before? As an Australian, I am fearful of being a tall poppy, of making huge declarations and ending up eating an egg on face sandwich. There was the fear that it might not work out. I had a Plan B.
So what is faith then and how can we get it? How can we be like an American kid asked to perform on stage at summer camp?
Well, we can take steps in the direction and not give up, even when the dark is at its darkest ( just before the dawn) – and at some time we have to go public with our dreams.
I have found in going public with mine (right here), I have become much more vulnerable but also much more encouraged. It’s easy to keep the dream alive of being a writer when you are just at home doing the work in private. Before, hardly anyone knew of my urge to write. I only showed bits of Wonderlust to a select few when I really trusted they would like it, for fear my confidence would break too easily. It would have. And I am still working on this.
But I am more encouraged now. I collect words of encouragement as if they were precious stones – because they are. Sometimes I will need them as stepping stones, bringing me back to faith. Sometimes they will lead me back home.
So I wanted to say thank you for allowing me to feel this– to people I do and don’t know personally who comment or like or follow or even just read this – to my Dad who always clicks ‘like’ to my link on Facebook – to my Mum too for responding and keeping the dialogue open. To M and the good friends who are always supportive and also the people who take me by surprise and tell me they read my blog and like it. I am so grateful. You help me feel as if.
With words, I am home.