Oh man, right now I am feeling so grateful to have this blog. Isn’t the internet grand? Such a time-waster but also such an enabler. I am feeling so grateful to all of you who responded to my last post about announcing I am a writer and grateful to anyone, in fact, who has ever commented or liked or signed up to follow or even just read it. A year ago, I had no idea that this was available to me – these bubbly feelings, this heart-space – and for so little. Some blogs get 100 people commenting or have 10, 000 readers and I’m just thrilled to have three comments and a few likes. It honestly fills me with joy. And I don’t believe it’s an ego driven thing – it’s just a sign for me to keep going because I’m on the right track.
I totally feel like I won an Oscar (see the speech above) and this brings me to what I really want to discuss…GRATITUDE!!
Yes, just like Oprah said!
Just like Gabrielle Bernstein… GRATITUDE IS MY ATTITUDE!
I used to be much more of a cynical, jealous person. Perhaps this didn’t show on the outside (or did it?) but I definitely felt it inside. My past journals attest to this. I didn’t know that I could channel my energy instead into creating the life of my dreams and the things or people I envied were just arrows pointing me in this direction. I had to get grateful.
Luckily, gratitude is an attitude you adopt. It doesn’t come from your loins and nor do you share the same DNA, but once you make a commitment to it you can’t go back.
Because being in a state of gratitude is the opposite of being arrogant, miserable, cynical and jealous. It’s freaking AMAZING!
Getting grateful can totally change your life.
what you focus on grows
People are so often waiting for something to happen so that they can be happy, like if i get that job/lose that weight/meet my love/leave my job. But in order to bring more of what you love into your life, you have to love your life right now!
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is to praise and celebrate.
Now, who wouldn’t agree with Oprah?
Tonya Leigh recently wrote on this topic too.
“People have been conditioned to believe that they need to focus on a problem to change it. That’s a lie! Knowing what you don’t want is a great place to start, but to dwell in that space is detrimental. The solution? Celebration will move you forward!”
You see, this is the land where exclamation marks abound!
But, she says,
“The thought of celebrating our lives brings up feelings of shame and/or vanity. We’ve been trained that we must fix our problems and obtain goals before we can loosen up a bit.”
I would say this is especially true for us Aussies with our Tall Poppy Syndrome – but perhaps things have changed since Kylie Minogue moved to the UK to escape ‘the singing budgie’ tag. Perhaps it is now okay to stand tall and pop the champagne on a Monday or have a celebratory cup of tea and count your blessings. From my recent declarations, I have felt nothing but love.
Once you start celebrating your life, you will see just how many wonderful people show up to celebrate with you. Celebrate your own life, no matter what your current circumstances may be, as you celebrate the lives of others. And soon it’ll be one BIG party! Suddenly the lives of celebrities aren’t so interesting. Suddenly we’ll be truly relating rather than bitching and gossiping. And it all comes back to the practice of GRATITUDE.
I’m telling you this in case you needed to remember. Gratitude is not something that always comes naturally to me either. Fussiness and dissatisfaction on the other hand … My Mum said that I whinged so much as a two-year-old that she decided not to have any more kids! Sometimes that little brat still makes her presence known …
BUT none of this matters because gratitude is a practice and like anything, we don’t just wait to be in the mood to do it. We do it to get in the mood!
So every morning (and here comes my inner teenager cringing at me revealing my secret business) … Every morning I start my day by writing down five feel good moments from the day before and then five things to celebrate (Thank you Melissa D’Antonio). You could also do it at night if that suits you better but it really doesn’t take too long. It’s one of the ways I start my day right and it’s something I’ve been doing almost every day for over a year (meaning when I was working full-time).
Sometimes I celebrate stuff like not reacting to a situation in the same way as I have for my previous 34 years of my life or sometimes it’s the fact that I bought my very-own Mac from my own money or that I have a new friend (or friends) or caught up with an old friend or that I did something embarrassing and got over myself. Feel good moments could be lying by the lake under a shady tree with the sunlight streaming through the leaves or just a simple cup of coffee or running for the train and making it.
Focusing on these moments is like making an album of the good times. It inspires a sense of peace and joy and abundance – allowing us to feel these blissful states again.
And it spreads.
If there is light in the soul, there will be beauty in the person.
If there is beauty in the person, there will be harmony in the house.
If there is harmony in the house, there will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation, there will be peace in the world.